Counselling

“The first layer of intimacy, is to be intimate with oneself.”
Let’s start there.

It’s important to find the right person with whom you can share your feelings of confusion, frustration, fear and self-exasperation.

I’m a sex-positive counsellor specializing in issues around sexual identity confusion, sexuality, and relationships where these issues are problematic. I work with singles and couples of every sexual orientation and gender configuration.

I believe sexuality is a vital energy, inherent aspect of who we are. When we deny or repress our sexuality the rest of our psyche suffers as well. Personal sexual stagnation leads to relationship stagnation, dissatisfaction, and resentment. This blockage can preclude the ability to experience authentic, satisfying emotional and physical intimacy as well.

It’s important to tend to one’s sexual self at every stage adulthood, and even moreso in long-term relationships. Different life stages have different needs. The child rearing years come with their own set of challenges, after which many couples struggle with turning the corner from raising a family, to a new focus on personal growth and mutual support.

My Approach
You have power over your own life. Whatever challenges you are facing, you have the ability to overcome them.

In order to change what you see on the outside, you must change what is going on inside. Quite often a new perspective is required, a new way of seeing yourself, your life, and life in general.

We will examine your thoughts and beliefs, closing the gaps in the contradictions with either behavioural changes, or acceptance. Transforming the internal struggles will allow you to move toward an easier flow. Life shifts from being a burden to becoming an adventure.

We are usually the most un-cooperative element in our own lives. The question is, are you willing to let yourself be the person you want to be, and live the life you want to live?

There is great power in authenticity.

My Practice
I’m available for daytime as well as evening appointments, during the week and on the weekend.
I have an office in Vancouver. I also do phone and Skype sessions.

Sessions are 55 minutes long.
$95 for a single session.
$350 for four sessions.

Cancellations must be made at least 24 hours in advance or the full session will be charged.

I do have a sliding scale for those in need with financial constraints. Please ask.

About Me
I’m an openly bisexual married man with two teenaged progeny. I’ve been married to my one and only wife for 20 years. We all live together in Vancouver, BC, Canada.

I’ve spent my entire life working with issues around sexuality. My father has been openly gay since the late ’60s. I’ve been bisexual all my life, although only happily so for since 2009.

My wife and I have been experimenting with non-monogamy for 5 years. So far, it’s working well for us.

I founded and continue to run the Meetup group “Bisexuals in Vancouver“.

I facilitate “BiFocus”, the monthly bisexual social support group sponsored by Qmunity.

I also founded and maintain “Open Marriage Vancouver“.

I give talks, workshops and seminars on a variety of sex-related topics. Please see my Speaking page for more details.

My book, entitled “Confessions of a Bisexual Husband“, details the experiences my wife and I had once I came out to her about being bisexual, and the subsequent changes we made to our ailing marriage as a result. My one-man show, “Bi, Hung, Fit… and Married“, is based on the book, and I continue to perform the show across the continent to rave reviews.

Both the play and book are about a married couple with kids dealing with relationship stagnation. Once the husband comes to terms with his bisexuality, the couple set each other free, deciding they will stay together only because they enjoy each other’s company. Their sexual experimentation leads them through a series of counter-intuitive discoveries, at the end of which is an emotional intimacy and love between them neither had ever imagined.

If you require a non-judgmental, confidential, sex-positive, experienced counsellor, please contact me for a complementary thirty minute consultation.

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Upcoming Dates




Little Sisters Book and Art Emporium,
1238 Davie Street
Thursday, 29 May, 7 p.m.

People's Co-Op Bookstore,
1391 Commercial Dr,
Thursday, 12 June, 7 p.m.

The Frank Theatre Cabaret,
Friday, 20 June, 7 p.m.





I'm thrilled and honoured to have been awarded Volunteer of the month by Qmunity for February, 2014. Read about here.

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